I was walking down the street and noticed a couple talking in a corner. We come across them every now and then, don’t we? Mostly, we would see them happy, smiling or giggling around. However, this couple, I am talking about were different or at least that is what I believed. They were worried about something. It could have been about anything. But, I thought it was ‘the most difficult problem’ most of the couples would be facing.
One of my friends was happy with my previous blog and appreciated me in a way I didn’t imagine. First of all, thanks to my friend. And this one is because of the same friend.
I was actually asked to write about or review Chetan Bhagat’s “Two States”. Let me see how it goes.
The bottom line of the book is pretty simple – it is about the basic problem faced by most of the pairs who want to start their life together. Yes, it is about the parents whom the pair needs to convince to start over.
However, I would like to see this in a different light. We all know that love is not just about the feeling or the care we show on the opposite sex. There are so many forms of love. We love anyone or every one or anything or everything we come across. Apart from the usual love we talk about, we love our parents, blood relations, pets, hobbies and what not. So, the basic problem is finding the important one, i.e. to prioritize them. And that isn’t going to be easy at all. So, I would comprehend that the enemy of love is love itself, i.e. the love on one particular person or thing can be an enemy for another. Because, most of the time they contradict each other.
Ranking the loved ones isn’t easy because we don’t have any tests to do that and even if we have, we have to answer them ourselves, not to forget the evaluation. Each one could be important at different places or situations. The most important ones are the most difficult ones. And that is the reason we find it difficult to take our decisions.
One might have to lose their passion or lose their dreams or people because of another. Actually, the problem of the lovers we talk about comes last because these problems start very early. We have always missed something because of another, starting from the toys. Haven’t we seen or experienced people giving up their desires, giving up their needs, giving up what they loved just because they wanted something else or to satisfy someone else. And this is a major problem in our country, since we always need backing up. And we believe that we couldn’t survive without the backup. We are always dependent on others(mostly parents). I don’t blame anyone for this, it is the way it has been and it is the way it is going to be, at least for another decade.
Coming back to the love which is very commonly known.
“Love is very beautiful” – we would have heard that a number of times.
Each one of us believes our love is different or it is the best or it is true. And that is because it is a special feeling for every one of us which others couldn’t understand, in fact, at times, we couldn’t understand. “Love is something which cannot be understood through words, it should be felt, because even the one who feels it doesn’t understand it” this is my way of looking at it.
The people around us may tell us so many things about ourlove, but, for us, those things don’t matter. And we don’t like people giving suggestions about it. So, I believe we need to respect each other’s feelings. (It is not only about love, it is for every other feeling). Haven’t we heard “Macha, edhu appadi kadayadhu da, enodadhu vera” (dude, this is not like that, mine is different, I meant the love). Even the ones who are in love couldn’t understand the love of others. Therefore, it isn’t right to blame our parents for not accepting. They haven’t heard this concept and it isn’t easy for them to accept. All of us are selfish and we have our ego, and this is the main reason for most of the problems. Even if we do understand certain things, we do not accept it because of our self respect or esteem or simply ego.
I know I haven’t given any solution to this; it is because I am no sage or judge to give a verdict on the most complex issue, I say it is complex because it is a mixture of so many issues that most of us ignore most of the times. The experienced ones would see at least a few of them. And at this age we don’t see them or we don’t care about them.
I always believe that if we miss something, let it be. There is always something else which would make us happy. We as humans never get satisfied with anything we have. Getting the loved one (by loved ones I mean anything that we love) is the same, may be, we deserve something better. Just hope so, and try to be happy.
Wow, that is a great coincidence, I hear this song rather these lines – therindhi veiypoma manasai therindhi veipoma, varuvadhu yaar endru vettu dhan papomae, ada unakanae pirandhadhu unnakae dhan, kedachadha vechikoda avalovudhan… (for those who don’t understand Tamil, let us keep our heart open, let us see who is gonna come, you have a someone born for you, be satisfied with whatever you have). Pettarap……..
I just wanted to add a request. This is for both parents and the children. We love each other. Never doubt each other's love.
